Today (Saturday 3rd December 2011) is my blog’s first anniversary. It’s hard to believe that it’s a whole year since I wrote that first post: “What is the mother experiment?”
Within hours of that first post I had used my iPod touch to write a post about how my daughter was sick and I felt powerless but I liked being able to comfort her just by holding her. It is called comforted by comforting and it remains, to this day, one of my favourite posts. By the next day I was saying how I wished she’d love me that little bit less and let me get sleep in another of my favourites “no naps for mum mum mum mum”.
Reading back over my earliest entries I realise that I have learned so much in the last year. I have linked to some of my favourite posts here. I by no means expect you to read them all but I have spent a lot of time on this because I hope you can read over the titles and read any that you find most interesting.
I have learned that being a mum means:
- making the most of day to day discoveries
- jobs taking so long to do because your little “helper” sabotages and taking time out for spontaneous dance break
- enjoying magic moments
(such as lying down having a long cuddle after a breastfeed)
- When you take babies somewhere special they will just want to people-watch
- trying anything to get to sleep. Some things work, some don’t. You might find our first attempt at co-sleeping
- missing some important events because your child isn’t invited
- enjoying a few minutes of sunshine
after the rain
- being touched by generosity
- deciding when it’s time for a bed
instead of the cot
- enjoying the perks of the job
- buying her bananas to keep her happy, even if they cost heaps and ignoring silly old men who argue with you ($1.65 for my daughter’s happiness)
- writing record
s of where your kids are at
- Toddler-wrangling with weary legs
- realising that you’re MAD
I’ve really struggled with the housewife part of being a stay at home mum, and you can read about it in posts such as:
- slow-cooker first attempt, please help
(by the way, I LOVE my slow-cooker now)
I’ve documented many milestones, such as
- Alexis’ first Christmas (see “wrapping paper, glitter and baby Jesus”
- Alexis’ special relationship with Izy (see Cousins by chance friends by choice)
- Hand foot and mouth disease (a blistery Easter)
It is so important to invest time in your marriage
- The wife experiment: out of my comfort zone
details a date to a “white Christmas” just the two of us and how weird it felt leaving Alexis behind for the first time.
- The wife experiment: he is not my son
is where I realise I’d been babying my husband
- I realised that my husband is great when I’m sick
- appreciate the things hubby does to help
- date night/my big girls first sleep over
describes how the first night away from your baby is awkward but very nice
- Corey doesn’t always get the welcome home
he was looking for unfortunately
- But I miss him and write him poetry when he’s gone
- I described our marriage so far as the longest and best three years
of my life
I have learned a lot about God through my relationship with my children
- I first wrote about it in: “I couldn’t understand until I had a child of my own”
, which mentions how frustrated I get when Alexis does the wrong thing (and knows it) and I have to decide whether to stop her (and endure the wrath) or let her continue and possibly get hurt.
- It’s OK to run to daddy
- going to church with a baby makes me question am I crazy?
- I am a failure, but God is patient (A lesson in grace taught by Alexis
I’ve posted things just for laughs such as
- An acute case of noctobub
(written in scientific journal article style)
(2 bogus conditions where we think our baby is better or worse than he or she really is)
- Funny things kids do:
- Sleep wars
(A star-wars based tale of the woe that was trying to get Alexis to sleep for the first year and a half of her life)
(being incredibly tired, cranky and hormonal)
I’ve also learned a lot about blogging:
- posting on controversial topics such as immunisation “please ma’am stab my daughter
- having a whinge
- realising that the mummy blogging market is huge
- saying no to events you had wanted to go to because it’s all too hard (No DPcon12 for me)
I’ve also posted some gorgeous pics. This link will show the most recent wordless Wednesday entries.
I’ve also shared some rather difficult stories of personal growth pursuits in my Me and YOU Monday project. This link will show the most recent entries.
I have learned that every day is a massive day. Every day has challenges and opportunities for adventure. Every day has opportunities to smile. I cannot control my kids or my husband but I need to learn to control myself. I have learned that I love being a mum, most of the time. I have learned that it is my attitude that effects how I see the world. I have learned that God has blessed me so very much and that I want to live every day filled with joy. I am not there yet but hopefully by this time next year I’ll have so much to share about that too.
Whether you have been following The Mother Experiment from the start, for a little while, or are just stopping by, thank you for your support. It means so much to me.