I enjoy reading Kate Takes 5 listography challenge every week but don’t always get to play. This week she said there’s no excuses not to. I think I could think of a few but seeing as I want to play anyway I’ll let it slide. This week is top five tips for bloggers I’ve learned along the way.
1) watch what you write
It’s often difficult to remember that people actually read your blog, especially when you’re just getting started and you have few comments. Even if nobody reads it at the time, the internet is public and permanent, so be mindful of that. It is not a great idea to bag out your mother in law (even if you’re only joking around, which I must have been, coz my in-laws are great) in case your sister in law stumbles across it one night and suddenly stops talking to you. Awkward.
I used to ramble and not think much about what came out or the potential consequences. It’s not wise unless you have an anonymous blog. Sometimes I wish I had one.
2) if you do write contraversial stuffu be prepared to back it up
I had been blogging for less than a month when a once friend took offence to something I wrote. It shook me. I probably should not have written what I wrote but I wouldn’t delete it either because I believed, and I still do, that it’s an issue many new parents face. (It’s about when you decline an invitation to an important social function because they don’t want you to take your baby.)
I’ve since had people take offence to my views on immunisation and my religion. These two things I won’t back down on but I do need to be prepared to answer questions about them.
3) be mindful of the fact that people don’t always read things the way you meant
People interpret things based on their experiences, hang ups, whether English is their first language or not and things like that. People who don’t regularly follow your blog might also perceive something differently to those who read your posts and know a bit about you. I’ve had random people question whether posts I’ve written are appropriate or not and been accused of being downright nasty on a few occasions.
I wanted to give up blogging at times like that because I hate being misunderstood. It’s important to re-read your post and see if you did something wrong and apologise that you offended them but if they read you out of context then you don’t have to take it to heart.
4) stay true to yourself
Link ups, projects and memes and the like are fun and a great way to get traffic to your blog but only join them if it suits your blog’s tone and style. There is no point busting your butt trying to join everything going.
One blogger I’ve been following since the start of my blogging journey went through a phase of only posting something if she could link it up to someone. It turned me off her blog for a little while but now she is posting from her heart again her blog is better than ever.
It is worth remembering that although linky parties encourage others to visit your site it is your unique content and everyday posts that will encourage them to stick around, come back, or ‘follow’.
5) Be positive
So many of us use our blogs as a dumping ground for emotions. Hey it’s cheaper than counselling. What I noticed a while ago was a period of so many negative posts coming from a time of my life that wasn’t really that bad. I had missed opportunities to record so many happy times.
It makes sense: when I’m miserable or frustrated I naturally want to “blog it out” but when I’m having fun I just enjoy the moment. The problem is I’ve got friends who don’t have kids yet who look to my blog for a taste of what life as a mother is like. So I try to make an effort though to jot down fun moments to blog about when I get a chance. I’m still working on one about my two bubs and their amazing bond.
I will obey the rules of listography and leave it to five. I have so many tips of a more technical nature but I want you to learn from my social mistakes. I thought about combining 1-3 but knowing when to stop fussing over a post is very important too. (Not a tip just a statement. Really.) Other people will probably cover them in their top 5 anyway.
If you’ve got any blogging tips why not share them by posting a comment or by linking up your own post to Kate Takes 5.
I’m going to join this up to Jess at Diaryofasahm.net because she lets you link up anything you post on a Tuesday. That’s a great link up for sure. The button will take you there.